What if I told you there’s a secret that could unlock this kind of passion? A way to trigger his deepest, most primal instincts — the part of him that craves love, devotion, and commitment on a level that goes beyond the surface?

When I first met my husband, we had an amazing connection. But as time passed, something held him back. He was distant, hesitant, and afraid to fully commit. No matter what I did, I couldn’t get through to him. It felt like I was losing him, and I couldn’t figure out why.

Then a friend introduced me to a concept that changed everything: the hero instinct.

At first, I didn’t believe it. It sounded too simple. But as I learned more, I realized this wasn’t just a gimmick — it was rooted in the deep, primal psychology of men. And once I figured out how to activate this instinct in him, our entire relationship transformed. Today, we’re not just married — we’re deeply in love, and his devotion to me is unshakable.

Now, I want to share this powerful secret with you, so you can experience the same kind of intense love and commitment from your man.

What Is the Hero Instinct?

At the core of every man are three powerful desires:

1. The need to feel needed: Men want to know that they play a vital role in your life.
2. The desire to feel respected: Men crave admiration from the woman they love.
3. The drive to live with purpose: Men need to feel that their efforts and sacrifices matter.

When you satisfy these deep psychological needs, you unlock a part of him that is rarely seen — a part that pulls him closer to you like a magnetic force. Suddenly, his fear of commitment melts away, and he’s drawn to you on a level that’s undeniable.

But how do you trigger this hero instinct and make him fall for you deeply and fully? Here’s how.

1. Challenge him to become his best self

And when he overcomes those challenges, guess who he’ll associate that feeling of triumph with? You. He’ll feel proud, confident, and connected to you in ways he didn’t even know were possible.

2. Let him be your hero

Men are hardwired to protect and provide. It’s a part of their DNA. And while you’re fully capable of handling life on your own, letting him step in when you need help taps into this primal desire.

Whether it’s something as small as asking him to open a jar or something more substantial like fixing a problem around the house, you’re giving him the chance to be there for you in a way that strengthens your bond.

When a man feels needed, he instinctively wants to be more present in your life. This isn’t about sacrificing your independence; it’s about showing him that you value and trust his role in your world.

3. Praise him with sincerity and depth

Men, like women, crave validation — but not just any kind of praise. They want to feel truly seen. Superficial compliments will only scratch the surface, but when you dig deeper and acknowledge the qualities that really matter, he’ll feel understood in a way that no other woman has ever made him feel.

Tell him how much you admire his strength, his integrity, the way he handles challenges. Let him know how much his kindness and support mean to you. When you make him feel valued for who he truly is, he’ll begin to see you as the woman who understands him better than anyone else.

4. Send the 12-word text that changes everything

Sometimes, a few well-chosen words can change everything. I remember when my partner started to pull away early in our relationship. He became distant, and no matter what I did, I couldn’t bring him back. I was on the verge of losing him.

That’s when I discovered a simple but powerful 12-word text. I sent it, and almost immediately, he opened up to me like never before. That one message became the turning point in our relationship.

Curious about what this 12-word text can do? Click here to discover how it works and why it’s so effective.

5. Be his steadfast support

Behind every strong man is an even stronger woman. Men need to feel supported, especially when they’re chasing their dreams or facing life’s challenges. When you show him that you believe in him, even when he doubts himself, he’ll start to see you as his rock — his safe haven.

And once he realizes that you’re the person who will stand by him through thick and thin, his attachment to you will deepen in ways you’ve only dreamed of.

6. Boost his confidence and make him feel like a king

No matter how confident a man may seem, he still craves validation from the woman he loves. Let him know that you see his strengths. Tell him how much you appreciate his efforts, whether it’s the way he makes you laugh or the way he stands strong in the face of stress.

When you become the source of his confidence, you’ll also become the source of his deepest desire.

7. Show him deep, genuine appreciation

Gratitude can transform a relationship. A simple, heartfelt “thank you” for the little things he does can make him feel valued and cherished in ways that go beyond words. When a man feels appreciated, his natural instinct is to give even more of himself to you.

The more you show him gratitude, the more he’ll want to be by your side, committed fully to making your life better.

Ready to Be the Woman He Can’t Live Without?

By tapping into his hero instinct, you’ll unlock a part of him that’s rarely seen. You’ll make him feel alive, needed, respected, and deeply connected to you. It’s not about changing who you are — it’s about bringing out the best in him and creating a bond that’s unbreakable.

Men crave this more than anything when it comes to relationships. It’s not about grand gestures or rescuing you from danger — it’s about him stepping up, being your everyday hero, and earning your admiration in ways that make him feel valued and irreplaceable.

And here’s the secret: Once you trigger this instinct, his attraction for you will intensify in ways you never thought possible.

In his brilliant free video, James Bauer reveals the exact words, texts, and small requests you can use to unlock this hidden drive inside him. When you tap into his hero instinct, it’s like flipping a switch — he’ll see you in a whole new light, and the attraction will be undeniable.

Want to unlock that kind of chemistry? Watch the free video now and learn how to awaken the man you’ve always wanted him to be. Click here to watch!

Sometimes, his actions speak volumes—louder than words ever could.

In this article, we’re sharing 20 undeniable signs that he’s catching feelings, even if he hasn’t come out and said it yet. And don’t worry—he’s probably just trying to make sense of these overwhelming emotions. Because when a man is truly falling, it can leave him reeling, unsure of how to express it.

It might not be long before he’s head over heels for you. But in the meantime, here’s what to look for:

1. He Can’t Stop Staring at You

Have you noticed his eyes lingering on you, even when you’re not speaking? It’s as if the world disappears when you’re near. Whether you’re across a crowded room or sitting right next to him, his gaze finds you, filled with something deeper than just physical attraction. His eyes tell you what his words haven’t yet—he’s falling, hard.

2. His Friends Know All About You

When his friends know details about you—things you haven’t even shared with them—it’s because he’s been talking about you. A lot. He can’t keep you out of his conversations, and that’s a powerful sign that you’re constantly on his mind. His excitement spills over, and he just can’t help but share his feelings with the people closest to him.

3. He’s Infatuated with You

Why do some men become utterly infatuated with certain women? Science shows it’s not always about logic—it’s about chemistry, an irresistible pull. Want to be the woman who lights up his world, who he’s drawn to with a primal intensity?

Try this: Watch James Bauer’s video on His Secret Obsession, where he reveals the secret to making him completely obsessed with you by tapping into his deepest desires.

4. He Always Wants to Spend Time with You

Does he want to be around you all the time, no matter what you’re doing? Whether it’s a casual movie night or an afternoon running errands, he’s eager to join you. He’s not there for the activity—he’s there for you. It’s his way of saying, “I want to be close to you, always.”

5. He Can’t Get Enough of Your Kisses

Sure, the physical connection is electric, but the way he lingers on your lips tells you it’s more than that. Kissing you isn’t just an act—it’s an emotional experience, a way to feel connected. He craves that closeness, the intimacy of being wrapped up in you.

6. He’s Always Close to You

He sits right next to you when there’s plenty of space elsewhere. At the dinner table, on the couch—his body seems magnetically drawn to yours. It’s as if he needs to be near you, to feel your presence. With every little gesture, he’s showing you that his desire for you goes beyond the surface—it’s a deep, emotional pull.

7. He’s Perfectly Happy Just Chilling with You

Fancy dinners? Elaborate dates? He doesn’t need them. He’s more than content spending quiet nights at home, just the two of you. The comfort and ease he feels in your presence means something significant—he’s not just attracted to you, he’s emotionally connected, feeling safe and secure in your company.

8. He Sees You as The One

Do you feel like this might be the guy you’ve been waiting for? Sometimes, that connection feels so real, so intense, it’s undeniable. And he’s probably feeling it too. Want to make sure he’s not only falling but completely committed?

Text Chemistry could be the key. Discover how to use the power of texting to create irresistible chemistry and make him crave you even when you’re apart. Watch Amy North’s free video to learn more.

9. He’s Told You His Deepest Secrets

When a man shares the parts of himself he keeps hidden from others—his insecurities, his dreams, his fears—that’s a sign of trust. He’s opening up to you, letting you into the most vulnerable parts of his life. He’s hoping you’ll accept him fully, even the pieces he’s afraid to reveal.

10. He Compliments Your Uniqueness

When he tells you how different you are from other women he’s dated, pay attention. It’s not just flattery—he’s expressing that you’ve touched him in ways no one else has. There’s something about you that captivates him, something that sets you apart. And that’s how you know he’s falling deeper.

11. He’s Not Seeing Anyone Else

You’ve become his one and only. His dating apps? Deleted. His exes? Forgotten. When he’s focused solely on you, it’s because he’s investing his heart, preparing to give himself fully.

12. He Smiles Around You—A Lot

That kind of happiness? It’s impossible to fake. If he’s always grinning when he’s with you, it’s because you light up his world. His smile is more than just a friendly gesture—it’s a reflection of the joy he feels in your presence, a glimpse into how much he adores you.

13. He Goes Out of His Way to Help You

Whether he’s fixing your car, moving furniture, or just offering a hand when you need it, he’s eager to help. His actions are saying, “I’m here for you. I want to take care of you.” And that’s a powerful sign of emotional commitment.

14. You’re the First Person He Shares Good News With

When something great happens, you’re the first person he tells. He can’t wait to share his joy with you because you’ve become his closest confidant, the person he values most. Want him thinking about you all day, even when you’re apart?

Learn how to keep him hooked with The Devotion System by Amy North. It’s packed with tips to ensure your connection grows stronger with every text. Watch her free video to get started.

15. He Talks About You to His Mom

If his mom knows who you are, even before you’ve met her, that’s a massive sign he’s serious. He’s not just seeing a future with you—he’s already starting to merge you into the most important parts of his life.

16. He Praises You Often

Maybe he’s not saying “I love you” just yet, but he’s showering you with praise. He’s constantly complimenting your intelligence, your beauty, your kindness—everything that makes you who you are. His admiration is growing into something deeper, something profound.

17. He Can’t Stop Kissing You

When he reaches for your lips over and over, it’s because kissing has become more than just a physical act for him. It’s an emotional connection, a way to feel closer to you. And when a man kisses you like this, he’s falling fast.

18. You Catch Him Staring at You

He might not say it outright, but the way he looks at you says it all. When his eyes are filled with admiration, it’s because he’s seeing something special in you—something that’s pulling him in deeper every day.

19. He Acts a Little Awkward Around You

Sometimes, when men catch deep feelings, they don’t know how to handle them. If he’s acting a little awkward or distant, it might be because he’s overwhelmed by emotions he’s not used to feeling.

Want to decode his behavior and truly understand what’s going on in his mind? Make Him Worship You reveals how to trigger deep emotional commitment. Watch Michael Fiore’s free video to learn how to make him fall head over heels for you.

20. He Shares Childhood Memories with You

When he opens up about his past, especially his childhood, it’s a major sign of trust. He’s letting you into his world, showing you the parts of him that shaped who he is, hoping you’ll accept every part.

Make It Something More

Now that you’ve recognized some of these unmistakable signs, it’s time to think about what comes next. Relationships require effort, but when you know how to tap into the deeper desires that drive men, it can transform your connection into something lasting and meaningful.

Ready to take your relationship to the next level? His Secret Obsession shows you how to trigger his hero instinct and make him devoted to you for life. Watch the video to learn how to ignite his deepest desires and keep him hooked forever.

Are you caught in a relationship that feels stuck, like you’re going nowhere?
Do you find yourself attracting men, only to have things fizzle out before it ever gets real?
Or worse—have you just ended things with a guy and now you’re wondering what went wrong?

Trust me—you are not alone. I’ve been through it all. The heartbreak, the sleepless nights, the endless questioning. I know how it feels to watch someone you care about slip through your fingers, unsure of what you could have done differently.

But everything changed for me when I discovered one powerful insight about men—a secret that transformed my love life from chaotic and confusing to deep, passionate, and utterly fulfilling.

Today, I want to share that life-changing revelation with you. This single realization saved my relationship, and it can save yours too. So if you’re ready to experience the kind of love that makes your heart race, keep reading—because what you’re about to discover could change everything.

Why My Love Life Was Always Falling Apart

For years, my love life felt like a never-ending rollercoaster ride—thrilling at first, but eventually always leaving me stranded, heartbroken, and alone.

I mean, I thought I had a lot going for me: I’m finishing my first novel, I have a borderline obsession with true crime documentaries, and I could probably live on sushi alone. But when it came to relationships? A disaster.

Every time I met someone, it felt perfect at first. He was funny, kind, adventurous—he checked all the boxes. But just a few months in, it would all change. He’d start pulling away. The texts became less frequent. He didn’t seem as excited to spend time together. And then—poof—he was gone.

Sound familiar?

It’s soul-crushing, wondering what went wrong when everything seemed so right. But then, I met Jason…

I Thought Jason Was “The One”

When Jason came into my life, I was convinced he was it. Our connection was instant, natural. We weren’t just boyfriend and girlfriend—we were best friends. I felt like I could finally relax and imagine a future together.

After six months, I was head over heels. I was dreaming of our life together, certain I’d found my forever. But then, just like all the others before him, the cracks began to show. He started to pull away. He wasn’t as eager to spend time with me, and small things started to irritate him. I could feel him slipping away.

When I asked him if anything was wrong, he gave me that dreaded, nonchalant, “I’m fine.” And we all know what that means: he’s not fine.

Jason continued to pull back, and I spiraled into full-blown panic mode. My mind raced: Was I too much for him? Did I say something wrong? Am I not enough?

I couldn’t bear the thought of losing him. But I didn’t know what to do.

Cracking the Code: The Missing Puzzle Piece

One night, it hit me—what if I was missing something? Maybe there was a piece of the puzzle I just wasn’t seeing.

I realized I didn’t understand what was really going on inside Jason’s head. He wasn’t opening up about what was bothering him, and like many men, he wasn’t great at talking about his feelings. But I knew he still cared about me—he just wasn’t happy. And if I couldn’t figure out why, I’d lose him.

I wasn’t ready to give up. I had to find a way to understand what was truly going on in his heart.

The Secret That Changed Everything

After hours of research and pouring through endless relationship advice articles, I finally stumbled upon something different. It was a piece by James Bauer, a renowned relationship expert. He introduced me to a concept I’d never heard of before—a concept that completely transformed my understanding of men.

James called it the Hero Instinct, and it was the key to everything.

According to James, men are hardwired with a deep, biological drive to feel needed and essential in a woman’s life. It’s not about being a knight in shining armor or making grand gestures—it’s about men needing to feel like they make a unique and irreplaceable impact in your life.

When they don’t feel this way, they can start to emotionally drift. But when you trigger this instinct, it pulls them closer, making them more devoted and emotionally invested than ever before.

What I Learned About Men Was a Game-Changer

James explained that men need to feel like more than just your partner—they need to feel like your hero. This doesn’t mean being manipulative or playing games. It’s about tapping into that deep biological drive, the instinct that makes men want to stick around for the long haul.

I realized that I hadn’t been showing Jason how important he was to me in a way that spoke to this primal need. I had been overlooking something so simple, yet so crucial: his need to feel needed in a way that made him feel irreplaceable.

How I Turned Things Around

I knew I needed more than just an introduction to this concept—I needed to know how to put it into practice. That’s when I decided to invest in James Bauer’s program, His Secret Obsession. It was the exact step-by-step guide I needed to turn things around in my relationship.

James taught me how to activate Jason’s Hero Instinct in a way that made him feel deeply connected to me—like I wasn’t just someone he cared about, but someone he couldn’t live without.

And guess what? It worked.

Jason leaned back into the relationship. He became more attentive, more affectionate, more invested. For the first time in my life, I felt completely secure. Jason wasn’t with me because he felt obligated—he was with me because he wanted to be.

What My Relationship Looks Like Now

My relationship with Jason? It’s better than ever. He’s more present, more affectionate, and more committed than I ever imagined he could be. And for the first time in my life, I feel secure and deeply loved.

So, what changed?

• There’s an undeniable fire between us that just keeps burning brighter.
• Jason shows me more affection now than even in the early days of our relationship.
• Most importantly, I feel completely secure—he’s with me because he truly wants to be.

It Can Work for You, Too

I’m not a relationship expert. I’m just a regular woman who found herself stuck in a painful cycle with men. But now, I’ve broken free of that pattern—and if I can do it, so can you.

Ready to unlock the Hero Instinct in your man? Watch James Bauer’s free video presentation and discover how you can trigger this powerful instinct. It’s the key to creating a bond that’s deeper than love.

Don’t Wait for Him to Pull Away

If you’re tired of feeling like your relationships are slipping through your fingers, now’s the time to take action. You can stop wondering if he’s losing interest and start building the kind of connection that makes him crave being with you.

Watch James Bauer’s free video on His Secret Obsession and learn how to make him fall deeper in love with you every day.

You don’t have to wait until it’s too late. With the right understanding, you can become the woman he can’t live without. You deserve that kind of love.

Picture this: He’s not just drawn to you, he’s completely addicted. You’re the only woman he thinks about, the one he dreams about, the one he craves. His every moment is consumed by thoughts of you—how to be near you, how to please you, how to make you his forever.

If so, you’re in the right place. And it’s far easier than you think.

The truth is, there’s a powerful set of behaviors that can hook a man’s attention in ways that make him yearn for you like never before.

And here’s the most intriguing part: it has nothing to do with your looks and everything to do with your energy and attitude.

That’s because these psychological triggers tap into his deepest desires—the ones he may not even realize he has.

Once you harness the right mindset and techniques, you’ll not only have his attention—you’ll have him obsessed, fully devoted to you. He’ll long for you, desire you, and need you in ways that will make you the center of his universe. Here’s how:

1. Understand Why Men Pull Away… and Learn How to Make Him Always Come Back for More

Ever felt the connection slip away just when things were going perfectly? That sinking feeling when he starts to pull back, creating distance for no apparent reason? It’s maddening, isn’t it? Well, you’re not alone. The truth is, most women unknowingly make attraction-destroying mistakes that drive men away—mistakes that can easily fizzle out the most promising romance.

Do you know what the top 3 mistakes are that almost every woman makes? These mistakes silently sabotage your connection. But don’t worry—there’s hope. I’ll show you exactly how to dodge these relationship-killers and keep him not only close but hungry for more of you. Find out how to avoid these deadly traps and have him hooked by watching Amy North’s free video here.

2. Use the “Obsession Formula” to Make Him Desperately Devoted to YOU

What if you could whisper a few, simple words that could make a man instantly addicted to you? Words that burrow deep into his mind, igniting an uncontrollable craving for you—no matter how distant he’s been or how “not interested” he claims to be. Sounds powerful, right? That’s because it is.

I call it the “Devotion Sequence,” a set of precisely chosen phrases that spark a man’s desire from within. It’s like flipping a switch, awakening a need so intense he won’t be able to think of anyone but you. This is the ultimate game-changer in relationships. Discover the exact formula by watching Amy North’s free video here.

3. There’s an Irresistible Texting Trick to Make Him Chase You Relentlessly

Have you ever stared at your phone, waiting for his reply, only to be met with silence? Or worse—seeing his reply come hours (or days) later? It’s infuriating. But imagine flipping the script—imagine him glued to his phone, aching for your next message. With my “Phone Phrenzy” tactic, you’ll create so much mystery, intrigue, and excitement that he won’t be able to resist checking his phone constantly.

This secret texting method will shift the entire dynamic, making him chase you—often too much. You’ll become the center of his attention. Want to learn how? Check out Amy North’s free video and get the secret here.

4. Create a “Soulmate’s Connection” and Make Him Dream of a Forever with You

Do you want him to not only fall in love with you but to imagine spending his entire life by your side? There are three powerful psychological triggers that can turn fleeting attraction into a soulmate-level bond. These psychological loopholes dig deep into his subconscious, making him fantasize about forever with you—his future filled with you, and only you.

This is how you create a bond so profound that he’ll see you as “the one”—his soulmate. If you’re ready for a deeper, more meaningful relationship that lasts, you need to know these secrets. Watch Amy North’s free video here and unlock the path to his heart.

Frustrated with men?

Tired of dating guys who don’t appreciate or value you the way you deserve? You’re not alone in this struggle. But now is your time to take control. With the right tools, you can turn things around and have the relationship you’ve been dreaming of. Amy North’s Devotion System has transformed the love lives of countless women—helping them find, keep, and nurture deep, passionate relationships with men who adore them.

Are you ready for that kind of devotion? Watch the free video and start your transformation here.

Unlock the Secrets to His Heart and Finally Have the Love You Deserve

Modern dating is frustrating. Swiping left and right might seem fun, but all too often, it leads to disappointment, ghosting, or even worse—red flags you can’t ignore. What if there was a better way? What if you could bypass the games and finally connect with the perfect man—without all the drama, uncertainty, and wasted time?

Amy North’s Devotion System isn’t just another guide—it’s your blueprint to a fulfilling, lasting relationship. Whether you’re exhausted by men who don’t value you, or you’ve met someone amazing but want to deepen the bond, this system will help you get there. Watch Amy North’s free video here and discover how to build the relationship of your dreams.

A Personal Success Story

I know what you might be thinking: “Why should I trust this advice?” Let me share something personal. When I first met my girlfriend, I was instantly hooked. She had this magnetic energy, something different—like she could read me without saying a word. As we grew closer, I discovered that she had been using the Devotion System to change her approach to dating, and let me tell you—it worked.

We’ve been together for six months now, and I can honestly say it’s the happiest, most fulfilling relationship of my life. I’m still as crazy about her today as I was the first moment I laid eyes on her.

That’s the power of the Devotion System. It gave her the confidence, the insight, and the ability to create a relationship that’s deep, passionate, and lasting. If you’re ready to experience this kind of devotion in your love life, don’t wait. Watch Amy North’s free video here. You deserve a love that’s electrifying, lasting, and uniquely yours. Let the Devotion System show you the way.

This wildly popular program promises to tap into a man’s deepest emotional need—something Bauer calls the “hero instinct.” It promises to not only make him commit to you, but to make him crave you, deeply and unwaveringly. But does this program truly deliver on its tantalizing promise? Does it hold the secret to capturing his heart for life?

Let’s dive deep into what makes His Secret Obsession stand out—and whether it’s truly worth your time, effort, and emotions.

What is His Secret Obsession?

His Secret Obsession is a relationship roadmap designed by best-selling author and renowned relationship coach James Bauer. The core message of the guide revolves around a deeply primal concept—the “hero instinct”—a powerful force Bauer believes is the secret key to unlocking a man’s loyalty, passion, and love.

According to Bauer, every man is driven by an unconscious, burning desire to be a protector, to feel irreplaceable, to be a hero for the woman he loves. And once this hero instinct is activated, he’ll naturally gravitate toward you, become more affectionate, and form an unbreakable emotional connection. Without it, no matter how much he cares about you, he might feel adrift, unsure, and eventually distance himself.

This guide is packed with detailed strategies, word-for-word scripts, and powerfully designed text messages—all aimed at tapping into this hero instinct. Whether you’ve just started dating, are in a committed relationship, or trying to win back an ex, His Secret Obsession arms you with specific, laser-focused tools to reignite and deepen his attraction to you.

Who Is James Bauer?

James Bauer is not just another relationship coach—he’s a revered expert with over 12 years of experience working with couples, helping them decode the often mysterious intricacies of male psychology. His training as a psychologist, combined with his real-world coaching experience, gives him a unique understanding of what really makes men tick emotionally in romantic relationships.

Bauer’s philosophy is simple but profound: men need to feel like a protector, a provider, a hero. This is not about outdated gender roles; it’s about understanding deep, primal instincts that govern male behavior in love and commitment. For years, Bauer has guided countless women toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships by teaching them how to access this core part of a man’s psyche—and His Secret Obsession is the culmination of that knowledge.

Is His Secret Obsession Worth It?

If you’ve been grappling with a man who seems emotionally distant, unsure of commitment, or has started to pull away, His Secret Obsession could be a game-changer. This isn’t about playing games or manipulation. It’s about understanding how to speak directly to the emotional needs men rarely voice but desperately crave.

The strategies outlined are designed to help you build a deeper connection by making your man feel genuinely needed, cherished, and irreplaceable. However, if you’re not looking for a long-term, committed relationship or aren’t ready to invest emotionally in understanding your partner’s deeper needs, this book might not be as beneficial.

For women who are serious about fostering a deeper emotional connection, though? His Secret Obsession offers practical, research-backed techniques that can start working almost instantly.

Who Is His Secret Obsession For?

This program is for women who:

• Want to strengthen or deepen the emotional connection with their man and inspire commitment.
• Have noticed their partner becoming distant, emotionally unavailable, or uninterested.
• Want to turn a casual dating situation into something serious and committed.
• Are looking to rekindle love and passion with an ex.
• Feel their man has a fear of commitment or is emotionally pulling away.

It’s also valuable for women who want to learn how to ensure they remain irreplaceable in their partner’s life by understanding and catering to his deeper emotional needs.

Who Shouldn’t Read It?

This guide isn’t for everyone. If you’re not looking for a serious, committed relationship or don’t want to invest the emotional energy into understanding the inner workings of your man’s heart, then this book might not be for you. It’s also not ideal for women who are in happy, thriving relationships and don’t feel the need for deeper connection strategies.

What’s Inside the Book?

His Secret Obsession is divided into three insightful parts:

1. Understanding the Hero Instinct: This section lays the foundation by explaining what the hero instinct is and why it is critical to a man’s emotional fulfillment. It dives deep into the male psyche, unraveling the mystery behind why men need to feel like a hero in their relationships to thrive.
2. How to Trigger the Hero Instinct: Here’s where it gets actionable. This part arms you with step-by-step strategies to activate your man’s hero instinct. From specific phrases and actions to subtle signals, Bauer provides you with practical tools to help your man tap into his natural desire to protect, provide, and cherish you.
3. Text Messages That Work: In this section, Bauer includes an array of power-packed text messages that can draw your man closer, reignite the spark, and deepen the emotional bond between you. Whether you’re trying to win back an ex, keep your relationship fresh, or take things to the next level, you’ll find precise, scenario-specific scripts here.

The Secret Signals—and How to Use Them

Throughout the book, Bauer introduces you to “signals” that can trigger the hero instinct. These signals are subtle yet incredibly powerful tools that communicate directly to a man’s subconscious, making him feel more connected to you on a primal level.

• The Glimpse Phrase: This phrase gives him a tantalizing preview of the amazing life you could build together, sparking his imagination and deepening his desire for a future with you.
• The Damsel in Distress Signal: This isn’t about playing weak—it’s about letting him step into his role as your protector, igniting his natural instinct to care for and cherish you.
• The Private Island Signal: This signal is designed to make him feel like he’s the only one who can fulfill your deepest needs, creating a powerful sense of exclusivity.

These signals, while subtle, create a powerful emotional response, making him feel needed, appreciated, and deeply connected to you.

What Does His Secret Obsession Cost?

Priced at $47, His Secret Obsession includes the main guide, additional bonus content, and a 60-day money-back guarantee. While it may seem higher than other relationship guides, the value lies in its depth and the powerful strategies you can immediately implement to transform your relationship.

My Favorite Part: The 12-Word Text That Changes Everything

One standout moment in the book is the story of Rachel, a woman whose man seemed emotionally distant. Bauer gave her a simple, 12-word text, and it completely flipped the script. Suddenly, the emotional connection was rekindled, and her man became deeply invested again.

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Pros of His Secret Obsession

• Practical, Actionable Strategies: This guide doesn’t just talk theory—it gives you tools you can start using right away.
• Backed by Psychology: Bauer’s approach is rooted in research, offering you reliable and effective techniques.
• Helps Build Lasting Connections: By tapping into the hero instinct, you’re not just building attraction—you’re fostering a lasting, meaningful bond.
• Instant Access: You can start implementing these strategies immediately with the digital download.

Cons of His Secret Obsession

• No Physical Book: If you prefer flipping through physical pages, this may be a downside—it’s available only in eBook and audio formats.
• Price: At $47, it’s pricier than some other guides, but given the value of the insights, it’s more than worth it.

Final Verdict: Is His Secret Obsession Worth It?

If you’ve been feeling the frustration of emotional distance or want to deepen your relationship in a way that feels effortless and natural, His Secret Obsession is your guide. James Bauer provides a clear, easy-to-follow roadmap to unlocking the emotional commitment and devotion of your man through the hero instinct.

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Read this with an open heart and remember that if you experience any of these, there is support available to help you.

1. Controlling Behavior: If your partner tries to control what you wear, who you talk to, or where you go, it’s a big red flag. This kind of control is a form of abuse, not protection or love.
2. Jealousy and Accusations: A little jealousy can be normal, but if it turns into constant accusations, questioning your loyalty without reason, or getting angry when you spend time with friends or family, it’s unhealthy.
3. Isolation: If your partner insists on keeping you all to themselves, cutting you off from your friends and family, it’s a sign of abuse. It’s a tactic to keep you dependent and alone.
4. Frequent Criticism: Everyone deserves to be uplifted, not put down. If your partner often criticizes you, your dreams, or your abilities, it’s not just mean – it’s abusive.
5. Threats or Intimidation: If you feel scared to disagree or say no because of how your partner might react, it’s a warning sign. Love should never feel threatening or fearful.
6. Unpredictable Temper: If your partner has sudden, intense mood swings that leave you walking on eggshells, it’s not a healthy environment. You should feel safe and stable in a relationship.
7. Guilting: If your partner often makes you feel guilty or responsible for their actions, especially if they’re hurtful, it’s a form of manipulation.
8. Physical Harm: This is the most obvious and dangerous sign. Any form of hitting, pushing, or physical harm is absolutely unacceptable.
9. Pressure or Force: Being pressured or forced into things you’re not comfortable with, especially physical intimacy, is a serious red flag.
10. Constant Check-ins or Monitoring: If your partner demands to know where you are all the time or checks your phone frequently, it’s a sign of possessiveness, not care.
11. Blaming You for Everything: If your partner blames you for all the problems in the relationship or their personal life, it’s a form of emotional abuse. Healthy relationships involve taking responsibility, not shifting blame.
12. Forced Social Media Sharing: If they demand passwords to your social accounts or require you to share messages and photos against your will, it’s a violation of your privacy and trust.
13. Over-Dependency: If your partner relies on you excessively for emotional support, decision-making, or blames you for their emotional state, it can be a sign of an unhealthy dynamic.
14. Undermining Your Goals: A partner who consistently discourages your aspirations or education is not looking out for your best interests.
15. Excessive Criticism of Your Friends and Family: If your partner constantly finds faults in your friends and family and discourages you from seeing them, it’s a tactic to isolate you.
16. Using Love as Justification for Harmful Actions: Phrases like “I do this because I love you” or “This is for your own good” used to justify harmful behavior are manipulative and abusive.
17. Withholding Affection as Punishment: If your partner withholds affection, ignores you, or gives you the ‘silent treatment’ as a form of punishment, it’s emotional manipulation.
18. Public Embarrassment: Deliberately embarrassing you in public, making rude comments, or demeaning you in front of others is a form of abuse.
19. Financial Control: Taking control of your finances, not allowing you to spend money, or forcing you to account for every penny spent is a tactic used in abusive relationships.
20. Threats to Harm Themselves: If your partner threatens self-harm in the context of arguments or if you talk about leaving, it’s a serious form of emotional blackmail and manipulation.
21. Invasion of Privacy: Going through your personal belongings, phone, or emails without permission shows a lack of respect for your personal space and privacy.
22. Gaslighting: This is when your partner manipulates you into questioning your own sanity or perception of reality, like denying things they’ve said or done.
23. Extreme Insecurity: While some insecurity is normal, extreme levels can lead to possessiveness and jealous behaviors.
24. Consistent Lying: Frequent dishonesty and lying can erode trust and is a sign of a disrespectful and potentially abusive relationship.
25. Disrespecting Boundaries: Not respecting your physical, emotional, or digital boundaries is a sign of a lack of respect and understanding in a relationship.
26. Disrespectful Language: Regular use of derogatory or belittling language towards you, even if claimed as “joking,” is a serious red flag.
27. Ignoring Your Emotional Needs: Consistently disregarding your feelings, needs, or concerns, and focusing solely on their own, is a sign of emotional neglect and abuse.
28. Forcing Decisions: Making significant decisions that affect both of you without your input or consent shows a lack of respect for your partnership and autonomy.
29. Excessive Sarcasm or Mockery: Constant sarcasm or making fun of you, especially in areas where you are sensitive, is not playful teasing; it’s a form of emotional abuse.
30. Sudden and Extreme Emotional Withdrawal: If your partner suddenly becomes cold and withdraws affection or communication as a form of punishment or manipulation, it’s an abusive tactic.
31. Unwarranted Jealousy Towards Children or Pets: Showing irrational jealousy towards the time and attention you give to others, including children or pets, can be a warning sign.
32. Tracking Your Movements: If your partner insists on tracking your location through your phone or other means without your consent, it’s a serious invasion of privacy.
33. Limiting Your Access to Work or Education: Trying to restrict or control your access to work opportunities, education, or professional development is a form of economic abuse.
34. Pressuring You to Change Your Appearance: Insisting that you change your appearance — whether it’s your clothes, hair, or body — to suit their preferences is a form of control.
35. Disregarding Your Accomplishments: Consistently ignoring or downplaying your achievements and successes can be a tactic to undermine your self-worth.
36. Unwanted Sexual Advances: Pressuring you for sexual activities, making unwanted sexual comments, or not respecting your sexual boundaries is a form of sexual abuse.
37. Invalidating Your Feelings or Experiences: Regularly dismissing your feelings, experiences, or opinions as invalid or overreacting is a form of emotional abuse.
38. Excessive Apologies Without Change: Frequently apologizing for hurtful behavior but not making any effort to change is a common cycle in abusive relationships.
39. Overbearing Behavior Under the Guise of Concern: Excessive checking up on you, needing constant updates, or saying it’s just because they care, but it feels suffocating and controlling.
40. Making You Feel Guilty for Time Spent Apart: Inducing guilt for spending time at work, with friends, family, or pursuing hobbies, suggesting that you’re neglecting the relationship.
41. Using Children or Pets as Leverage: Manipulating you by using children or pets, threatening to harm them or take them away if you don’t comply with their demands.
42. Reputation Damage: Spreading rumors or telling lies about you to friends, family, or colleagues to isolate you or damage your reputation.
43. Forcing Isolation from Support Systems: Actively trying to distance you from support systems like friends, family, or support groups.
44. Constantly Shifting Expectations: Keeping you off-balance by frequently changing what they expect from you, so you feel like you can never do anything right.
45. Using Gifts or Favors to Excuse Bad Behavior: Using gifts or doing favors to make up for abusive behavior or to persuade you to forgive them.
46. Excessive Criticism of Your Ambitions: Belittling your ambitions, career, or educational goals as unimportant or unrealistic is a tactic to undermine your self-esteem and independence.
47. Withholding Basic Needs as Punishment: Refusing to provide or making it difficult for you to access basic needs like food, sleep, or medical care as a form of control.
48. Demanding Constant Availability: Expecting you to always be available to meet their needs or respond to their communications, without regard for your own commitments or needs.
49. Refusal to Acknowledge Your Achievements: Consistently ignoring or belittling your achievements, whether personal or professional, to keep you feeling less accomplished.
50. Forbidding You from Working or Studying: Attempting to stop you from working or pursuing education in order to increase your dependency on them.
51. Public Humiliation as a Control Tactic: Deliberately embarrassing you in public or in front of friends and family to undermine your self-confidence and keep you subservient.
52. Excessive Monitoring of Your Activities: Monitoring your activities, online and offline, to an extent that invades your privacy and autonomy.
53. Manipulating You with Ultimatums: Regularly giving ultimatums for small issues or disagreements, forcing you to choose between the relationship and other important aspects of your life.
54. Forcing You to Partake in Illegal Activities: Pressuring you to engage in illegal activities or behaviors against your moral or ethical values.
55. Using Your Personal Information Against You: Threatening to reveal or actually revealing sensitive personal information about you to others as a form of control or humiliation.
56. Manipulation Through Guilt Over Your Past: Using your past mistakes or personal history against you as a form of manipulation and control.
57. Punishing You for Successes: Reacting negatively to your successes or achievements as a way to keep you from feeling proud or accomplished.
58. Forcing You to Prioritize Their Needs Over Yours: Consistently demanding that their needs, desires, or opinions take precedence over your own.
59. Using Substance Abuse as an Excuse for Poor Behavior: Blaming alcohol, drugs, or other substances for their abusive behavior and refusing to take responsibility for their actions.
60. Insisting on Accompanying You Everywhere: Insisting on being with you at all times, even where it’s inappropriate or unnecessary, as a means of control.
61. Excessive Bad-Mouthing of Your Friends and Family: Constantly speaking negatively about your friends and family in an effort to drive a wedge between you and your support system.
62. Using Cultural or Religious Beliefs to Justify Control or Abuse: Manipulating cultural, religious, or societal beliefs to justify controlling or abusive behavior.
63. Refusing to Let You End the Relationship: Not accepting your decision to end the relationship and using emotional blackmail, threats, or physical force to keep you from leaving.
64. Mocking Your Physical Appearance: Making derogatory comments about your body or appearance to erode your self-esteem.
65. Threatening to Reveal Secrets or Personal Information: Using personal information or secrets to threaten or blackmail you into staying in the relationship or complying with their demands.
66. Forcing You to Engage in Public Displays of Affection: Coercing you into public displays of affection to mark their territory or control how others see the relationship.
67. Setting Unreasonable Rules for the Relationship: Imposing strict and unreasonable rules or guidelines for how you should behave in the relationship.
68. Using Your Children as Pawns in Arguments: Involving or threatening to involve your children in disputes or using them as leverage in arguments.
69. Repeatedly Breaking Promises and Lying: Consistently making promises and not keeping them, or lying about significant and minor issues.
70. Intentionally Damaging Your Property: Destroying or threatening to destroy your belongings as a form of intimidation or punishment.
71. Dismissing Your Career or Education: Showing disinterest in or belittling your professional or educational pursuits, suggesting they are unimportant or a waste of time.
72. Forcing You to Change Your Lifestyle: Pressuring you to change your lifestyle, hobbies, or interests to suit their preferences, even if it makes you unhappy.
73. Demanding Access to Your Financial Accounts: Insisting on access to your bank accounts, credit cards, or demanding detailed accounts of your spending.
74. Frequent Threats of Break-up or Divorce: Regularly threatening to end the relationship as a means of control or to keep you anxious and off-balance.
75. Making You Feel Responsible for Their Happiness: Suggesting that you are the sole source of their happiness or well-being, making you feel guilty for any negative emotions they experience.
76. Using Technology to Monitor or Control You: Utilizing technology like GPS trackers, spyware, or social media to keep tabs on your whereabouts and interactions.
77. Blaming You for Their Violent Outbursts: Asserting that their aggressive or violent behavior is your fault or provoked by something you did or didn’t do.
78. Insisting That You Conform to Their Ideals: Pressuring you to conform to their ideal image of a partner in terms of behavior, appearance, or beliefs.
79. Isolating You From Professional Help: Discouraging or preventing you from seeking professional help like therapy or counseling.
80. Gaslighting About Your Health: Making you doubt your own perceptions about your health or insisting that you are imagining health problems.
81. Forcing You to Partake in Risky Behaviors: Pressuring you to engage in risky behaviors that you are uncomfortable with, such as reckless driving or illegal activities.
82. Using ‘Love’ to Justify Their Actions: Frequently justifying controlling or abusive behavior as a form of love, or saying it’s for your own good.
83. Excessive Criticism of Your Parenting: If you have children, constantly criticizing your parenting skills or decisions as a means to undermine your confidence.
84. Rewriting History: Denying or altering the truth about past events, especially arguments or incidents of abuse, to confuse you or make you doubt your memory.
85. Demanding Constant Reassurances of Your Love: Requiring constant reassurances of your love and commitment, which can be emotionally draining and manipulative.
86. Sabotaging Your Professional or Academic Opportunities: Intentionally acting in ways that hinder your career or educational progress, such as causing scenes at your workplace or school.
87. Forcing You to Ignore Your Own Needs or Health: Pressuring you to neglect your own basic needs, health requirements, or self-care practices for their benefit.
88. Belittling Your Beliefs or Values: Routinely mocking or showing disrespect towards your personal beliefs, values, or cultural practices.
89. Withholding Important Information: Deliberately keeping you in the dark about important matters that affect you or the relationship.
90. Insisting on Unreasonable Standards of Perfection: Setting unattainable standards for you to live up to and then criticizing you for failing to meet them.
91. Regularly Invalidating Your Achievements or Struggles: Consistently downplaying your achievements or struggles, suggesting that they are insignificant or unworthy of attention.
92. Demanding You Cut Ties with Supportive Friends or Mentors: Forcing you to end or limit contact with friends, mentors, or colleagues who provide you with support and empowerment.
93. Using Past Traumas Against You: Bringing up past traumas or sensitive topics to hurt or manipulate you.
94. Exerting Control Over Your Personal Choices: Dictating your choices in personal matters, like clothing, hairstyle, food preferences, or hobbies.
95. Inducing Shame or Guilt About Your Independence: Making you feel guilty for wanting independence, time alone, or personal space.
96. Criticizing Your Parenting in Front of Your Children: If applicable, openly criticizing your parenting decisions or authority in front of your children to undermine your role and authority as a parent.
97. Repeated Breach of Trust: Continuously breaking promises or betraying your trust in ways that damage the relationship’s foundation.
98. Forcing You to Justify Normal Behavior: Making you feel like you have to constantly justify normal activities like going to work, meeting friends, or spending money.
99. Persistent Disrespect Towards Your Boundaries: Continually disrespecting boundaries you have set, whether they are emotional, physical, or digital.
100. Using Silent Treatment as Punishment: Regularly using the silent treatment or refusing to communicate as a means of punishment or control.
101. Dictating Your Sleep Schedule: Controlling when you go to bed or wake up, regardless of your personal needs or schedule.
102. Limiting Your Access to Transportation: Restricting your use of the family car, public transportation, or other means of travel to keep you dependent on them.
103. Excessive Sarcasm About Your Personal Interests: Using sarcasm or mocking your hobbies, interests, or passions in a way that feels demeaning.
104. Pressuring You to Change Religious or Spiritual Beliefs: Forcing you to conform to their religious or spiritual beliefs, or to abandon your own.
105. Using Pet Names as a Form of Control: Employing endearing terms in a way that feels belittling or demeaning rather than affectionate.
106. Restricting Access to Personal Documents: Keeping or hiding your personal documents like passports, birth certificates, or IDs to limit your freedom.
107. Exerting Control Over Your Diet: Dictating what you should eat or drink, or criticizing your dietary choices to control or belittle you.
108. Disrespecting Your Professional Judgement or Expertise: Routinely doubting or belittling your professional skills and judgement in your area of expertise.
109. Making You Doubt Your Worth or Abilities: Constantly making you question your worth, talents, or abilities through subtle or overt criticism.
110. Demanding You Follow Their Schedule: Expecting you to adhere strictly to their daily or weekly schedule, disregarding your own needs or commitments.
111. Forcing You to Share Personal Struggles Publicly: Pressuring you to share personal or intimate details about yourself or your struggles in public or social settings.
112. Using Your Physical Health Issues Against You: Weaponizing your physical health issues or disabilities as a means of control or humiliation.
113. Demanding Control Over Your Leisure Time: Insisting on deciding how you spend your leisure time, whether it’s watching certain shows, participating in specific activities, or socializing with certain people.
114. Criticizing Your Financial Decisions: Constantly scrutinizing and criticizing your financial decisions, regardless of their impact on the relationship.
115. Undermining Your Role as a Parent or Guardian: If applicable, consistently undermining your authority or decisions as a parent or guardian.
116. Making Light of Your Medical Conditions: Dismissing or making jokes about any medical conditions or physical challenges you may have.
117. Insisting on Attending Your Medical Appointments: Demanding to be present at your medical or therapy sessions without your desire or consent.
118. Discrediting Your Memories or Experiences: Regularly telling you that your recollection of events is wrong or that you’re imagining things, a form of gaslighting.
119. Forcing You to Engage in Competitions or Challenges: Pressuring you into competitions or challenges, especially in areas where you feel insecure, to prove your worth or loyalty.
120. Overriding Your Decisions About Your Body: Making decisions about your body, such as how you should groom, dress, or whether to have medical procedures.
121. Demanding Access to Your Medical Records: Insisting on access to your medical records or information without your consent.
122. Using Your Fears Against You: Exploiting your fears, whether they’re irrational or based on past traumas, to control or manipulate you.
123. Sabotaging Your Birth Control Methods: Intentionally sabotaging or manipulating birth control methods to exert control over your reproductive choices.
124. Forcing You to Justify Normal Activities: Making you feel that you must justify normal activities like going to the gym, attending classes, or visiting family.
125. Pressuring You to Take Legal or Financial Risks: Pressuring you to engage in legal or financial activities that are risky or against your better judgment.
126. Dictating Your Social Media Use: Controlling how you use social media, whom you can interact with, or what you can post.
127. Restricting Your Access to Basic Amenities: Limiting your access to basic amenities like the internet, phone, or even food and water as a form of control.
128. Criticizing Your Language or Communication Style: Regularly criticizing the way you speak, your language skills, or your communication style to belittle you.
129. Using Gifts as a Means of Control: Giving gifts with strings attached or using gifts as a means to make you feel indebted.
130. Belittling Your Cultural Background or Identity: Mocking or disrespecting your cultural background, ethnicity, or identity.
131. Regularly Dismissing or Ignoring Your Complaints: Consistently disregarding your concerns or complaints about the relationship or their behavior.
132. Using Intimidation to Win Arguments: Resorting to intimidating tactics like raising their voice excessively or using aggressive body language during disagreements.
133. Demanding You Change Your Career or Job: Pressuring you to change your job or career path to better suit their preferences or insecurities.
134. Dictating How You Should Spend Your Free Time: Insisting on controlling how you spend your leisure time, often requiring you to spend all of it with them or in activities they approve.
135. Forcing You to Partake in Their Hobbies Only: Insisting that you engage only in their hobbies and interests, while disregarding or belittling yours.
136. Regularly Checking Your Phone or Online Activities: Habitually checking your phone, email, or social media without your permission, under the guise of concern or curiosity.
137. Dictating What You Can Read or Watch: Controlling what books you read, movies you watch, or the type of media you consume.
138. Mocking Your Professional or Academic Achievements: Belittling your professional or academic achievements, either in private or in front of others.
139. Insisting on Unreasonable Household Rules: Imposing strict and unreasonable household rules or chores specifically designed for you, often with penalties for non-compliance.
140. Repeatedly Bringing Up Past Mistakes: Continually bringing up your past mistakes or failures as a way to shame or control you.
141. Forcing You to Interact With People You’re Uncomfortable With: Pressuring you to spend time with people who make you uncomfortable, including their friends or family members.
142. Regularly Making Unfulfilled Promises: Consistently making promises about changing their behavior or the relationship dynamic but failing to follow through.
143. Insisting on Inappropriate Levels of Disclosure: Requiring you to disclose more personal information or details than you are comfortable with, especially early in the relationship.
144. Using Your Personal Struggles to Gain Sympathy: Exaggerating or fabricating personal struggles or traumas to gain your sympathy and manipulate you.
145. Regularly Questioning Your Intelligence or Common Sense: Frequently questioning your intelligence, judgment, or common sense, especially in decisions involving both of you.
146. Imposing Their Preferences on Your Personal Style: Dictating how you should style your hair, do your makeup, or what kind of clothes you should wear.
147. Intruding on Your Private Conversations: Eavesdropping on your phone calls, reading your private messages, or interrupting your personal conversations without respect for privacy.
148. Discrediting Your Feelings as Overreactions: Regularly telling you that you’re overreacting or being too sensitive, especially when you express discomfort or dissatisfaction.
149. Exerting Control Over Your Dietary Choices: Making unsolicited comments about what and how much you eat, or trying to control your diet.
150. Undermining Your Authority in Front of Others: Deliberately undermining your authority or credibility in front of others, including children, friends, or colleagues.
151. Making Unilateral Decisions That Affect Both of You: Making significant decisions about things like finances, housing, or major purchases without your input or agreement.
152. Consistently Interrupting or Talking Over You: Regularly interrupting you when you speak or talking over you in conversations, indicating a lack of respect for your voice and opinions.
153. Using Your Past Against You: Bringing up your past mistakes, faults, or personal history to shame or control you.
154. Insisting You Adopt Their Political or Social Views: Pressuring you to adopt their political, social, or ideological views, and criticizing you for having different opinions.
155. Dictating Your Sleep or Exercise Routines: Trying to control when and how you exercise, or dictating your sleep patterns and routines.
156. Isolating You From New Friends or Acquaintances: Discouraging or forbidding you from making new friends or building new relationships, especially if they perceive them as a threat.
157. Mocking Your Accent or Language Skills: Making fun of your accent, language skills, or the way you express yourself.
158. Forcing You to Engage in Activities You Dislike: Coercing you to participate in activities you find unpleasant, distressing, or against your values.
159. Regularly Withholding Information as a Power Play: Deliberately withholding information you need or want as a form of control.
160. Excessive Pessimism About Your Goals and Dreams: Constantly expressing pessimism or discouragement about your aspirations, goals, or dreams.
161. Ridiculing Your Aspirations or Career Choices: Constantly making negative comments about your career choices or aspirations, suggesting they are not valuable or achievable.
162. Forcing You to Share Personal or Intimate Details Publicly: Pressuring you to share personal or intimate details about yourself or your relationship in public settings.
163. Deliberately Withholding Affection or Attention: Intentionally withholding affection, attention, or emotional support as a form of punishment or control.
164. Using Your Cultural Background to Stereotype or Belittle You: Utilizing stereotypes related to your cultural or ethnic background to belittle or mock you.
165. Insisting on Accompanying You to Personal Appointments: Demanding to accompany you to appointments that are personal or private, such as therapy sessions or medical check-ups.
166. Belittling Your Hobbies or Interests: Constantly making derogatory remarks about your hobbies, interests, or the things you enjoy.
167. Forcing You to Change Your Personal Values or Morals: Pressuring you to alter or abandon your core values, morals, or ethics to align with theirs.
168. Dictating How You Should Express Your Emotions: Telling you how you should or shouldn’t express your emotions, or invalidating your emotional responses.
169. Using Your Children to Manipulate You: If applicable, using your children as a means to manipulate or control your actions and decisions.
170. Infringing on Your Alone Time: Not respecting your need for alone time, insisting that you should always want to spend all your time with them.
171. Regularly Dismissing or Minimizing Your Health Concerns: Consistently dismissing or minimizing your health concerns, whether they are physical or mental.
172. Dictating Your Religious or Spiritual Practices: Trying to control or dictate your religious or spiritual practices, or lack thereof.
173. Using ‘Jokes’ to Disguise Insults or Criticism: Regularly making hurtful comments disguised as ‘jokes’ and then accusing you of being too sensitive if you get upset.
174. Refusing to Compromise or Find Middle Ground: Showing an unwillingness to compromise or find a middle ground on issues, big or small.
175. Undermining Your Confidence in Your Abilities: Regularly making comments or actions that undermine your confidence in your skills, intelligence, or capabilities.

These signs point to behaviors that can subtly undermine self-esteem, personal autonomy, and emotional well-being. In any relationship, mutual respect, understanding, and support are key. If you encounter these behaviors, consider their impact on your well-being and don’t hesitate to seek advice and support.